Take a look in the mirror, what do you see? Yourself? I bet 8 out of 10 of you saw a nose, chin, blemish or wrinkle that you wish wasn’t what it was.
That my friends, is part of self esteem. Poor self esteem.
Poor self esteem is a huge, not addressed enough, issue. Both men and women, of all ages, are effected in similar as well as widely different.
Self esteem issues are not limited to body image alone. They can include things such as how they are viewed by the public, courage to try new things, moving up in a job, and relationship issues. Self Esteem issues can lead to depression, eating disorders, and poor choices in relationships.
So what can you do?
Find out what makes you happy. I have, well, in my opinion, horrible self esteem. But I know what I enjoy.
Music
My kids
My love
Food
Sports
Those are just to name a few. These things/activities make me happy. They distract me from my low self esteem. But they only do just that, distract me. Fact is to improve your self esteem you must battle through and over-power or change whatever you don’t like.
I know I am unhappy with my weight. I keep telling myself that I’ve love 100 pounds. That’s crazy right!? But I am lumpy. I am not fit. It drives me crazy. But I can only whine for so long before I must get up and start exercising (which I am working on). This is the only way to fix my low self esteem about how I look. I have to exercise to tone my body so when I look in the mirror I am pleased with what I see.
So, what do you want to change?
If it is your nose, I don’t know how to help you. I do not recommend plastic surgery. Maybe you should find a headband to have another point of focus when someone speaks so you aren’t worried they are only starring at your nose. This is just an example.
What I do recommend is seriously having a talk with yourself and figuring out what you can do to change how you feel. Only you can. Not someone or something else. Take the steps and make yourself happy.
